See? This is a tailor-made proposal. Not some “big screen of basketball game nonsense. This person took into account his girlfriend’s pastimes and favourite things in the world, knew how close to the family she was and engineered the perfect engagement proposal, without a doubt managing to make sure this would please her (surely her mother and sisters would know).
This is how you do big gestures.
This is so awesome I can’t even.
Also, the look on her face as she came into the house. Hehehehehehe!
Hi, and thanks! I personally find that you have to do something major to offend the Theoi. When in doubt, it doesn’t hurt to be extra respectful and give some offerings and just communicate what’s going on for you.
What I would do: Present an offering and do a semi-formal prayer that becomes me explaining what is going on/what I think is going on and apologizing if necessary. Then thanking them for their time/listening and ending the prayer. See how everything feels after that.
(I don’t always pray kneeling or give traditional offerings or follow a formal prayer format but I’ve found that as long as I’m respectful about it, everything works out!)
I think it’s really helpful, but not necessary. You can always use physical things to help you out (holding and feeling a crystal, etc.). Anything that helps you find your magic! The wonderful thing about witchcraft is that you can customize it to work for you 🙂
Here’s some info for anyone that doesn’t know what Aphantasia is [X]
1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.
2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.
3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.
4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.
5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”
Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.